I'm sorry for not posting before now, but as some of you may know life changes when you're a new mum. Time?... What is that word? :) All of a sudden 3 months have vanished. Is there a black hole in our house that I don't know about? Is someone playing a prank on me and has secretly changed all of our calendars to February?
My baby girl is now twice the size she started out as! She has started laughing (possibly the cutest thing on this planet) and she has started to grab things (mostly owls, fish, and other cute creatures hanging from her bouncy chair)..... and me... I feel like I have accomplished a lot of 'The Handy Guide to being a New Mum' tasks. I have recently started wearing jeans again (I only allow myself to wear leggings 4 times a week now - yes you can applaud if you like), and I am happy to report that I am 100 percent confident in leaving the house on my own now with my precious nugget. In fact, if there was a class I would call myself a master at it (not to brag of course). Ella and I have a good routine going now, and I have figured out her variety of looks, from "give me food" to "put me down for a nap now woman", and of course the "shit tsunami" look (that one is a little easier as it is always accompanied by a lovely odour).
I wouldn't trade these 3+ months for ANYTHING. I love Ella so much it hurts and I have even admitted to missing her when I'm sleeping (don't judge). I think I said this on my "Baby" page, but it's so true that the love you experience for your child is unexplainable. You can't put into words. It's amazing, stupendous, lovely, and all the other wonderful words that you can think of! If you are about to have a baby, or you are thinking of having kids (or even just one haha), it's so worth it! Just do it (obviously if you are about to have one, this comment does not apply.... you are well on your way! :) ).
Ella Louise - Our Experience from 0 to 3 Months
For all you mums who are having sleepless nights, or who have constant crying babies, you may want to skip this section. Also, I promised that my blog would be a place of honesty, so I'm going to be honest about my thoughts. I'm not trying to upset anyone, but this is a place for me to speak and voice my opinions. If I'm not honest and true to myself, then what's the point in me having this blog at all?
The short of it is that Ella is a 1 in a bazamillion (wow, a new word perhaps?) baby. She not only sleeps through the night, but she has now for at least a month and a half. How did we do it? We had her sleeping in her own bassinet (which we put in her crib) from almost the very beginning, and I truly believe that's key to a great sleeper. A wise woman once said to me 'start how you want it to end'.
Ella is also very chill and calm. She only cries for purpose (i.e. I need food, I need sleep, etc), and we can take her pretty much anywhere. I think the second week after I gave birth, we took her out to a noisy restaurant. I have two thoughts on this. First off, I really think that the earlier your children are exposed to all types of places and noise, the easier it will be. In fact, Ella seems to love being out and about and sleeps like a baby (no pun intended) through crazy amounts of noise. My second comment on going out with babies and kids is that I don't believe in 'child friendly establishments'. We need to be more like Europeans and take our kids anywhere and everywhere. Now if you're thinking "what about the children who misbehave, and make it crap for everyone else", then I would say this. Children need tools, boundaries, and rules. My mum had 3 kids, and she could literally take us anywhere. She put in the hard work from day one and it showed. If you can't take your child somewhere, then there is usually a good reason... I'm not trying to be rude, but that's just how I feel.
All in all these have been three wonderful months. We have visited with lots of friends, made new friends, travelled on the plane back to Ontario for Christmas (Ella was a gem), experienced our first family 'pass around the flu' session, gone on some hardcore mummy stroller workout sessions, and witnessed Ella growing and changing every day.
The Outside World - Our Experience from 0 to 3 Months
As a new mum expect a lot of "advice" and sometimes a lot of negativity. Some advice will be great (such as the tips and tricks your best friend gives you), but honestly about 90 percent you should just let go in one ear and out the other. Do what's best for YOU and YOUR FAMILY, and always listen to your gut. If your baby is sleeping great like Ella, expect a lot of 'oh you're second one is going to be a nightmare' comments. Even the man working at the grocery store will have something "fun" to say. I've learnt to paste on a fake smile and move on.
A Dad's Point of View - From 0 to 3 Months
Five words. Just keep on keeping on.
Be prepared to love like you've never loved before.
I would also like to add my point of view of Chris as a dad. He is the best dad Ella could ever wish for, and he is truly my partner in crime. I now realise how important it is to be with the right person when you decide to have kids, and I didn't just find the right person, I found the best. If you are with someone and thinking of having kids, make sure you ask the tough questions, and really be true to yourself. We've all had that those gut feelings, or even those red flags waving in our faces saying to run as fast as you can (I can speak from experience), but sometimes we ignore what we know deep down isn't right. Trust me, being with the wrong person on your own, and being with the wrong person and having a baby with them is a whole new ballgame. Pick someone your son or daughter would be proud to call dad, and it may sound cheesy but make sure he's your best friend. You will be going on the craziest ride of your life together, and having someone who you can lean on and laugh with through it all makes for a much smoother ride!
What's Coming Up?
Stay tuned for some upcoming blogs about my birth experience, having a new baby and a puppy (Nelly is still technically a puppy), my most useful baby products and some hopefully helpful reviews. If you have anything else you would like me to talk about, or if you have any questions, leave me a message below or tweet me at @TheNellyBellie ! I'd love to hear from you!
Five words. Just keep on keeping on.
Be prepared to love like you've never loved before.
I would also like to add my point of view of Chris as a dad. He is the best dad Ella could ever wish for, and he is truly my partner in crime. I now realise how important it is to be with the right person when you decide to have kids, and I didn't just find the right person, I found the best. If you are with someone and thinking of having kids, make sure you ask the tough questions, and really be true to yourself. We've all had that those gut feelings, or even those red flags waving in our faces saying to run as fast as you can (I can speak from experience), but sometimes we ignore what we know deep down isn't right. Trust me, being with the wrong person on your own, and being with the wrong person and having a baby with them is a whole new ballgame. Pick someone your son or daughter would be proud to call dad, and it may sound cheesy but make sure he's your best friend. You will be going on the craziest ride of your life together, and having someone who you can lean on and laugh with through it all makes for a much smoother ride!
What's Coming Up?
Stay tuned for some upcoming blogs about my birth experience, having a new baby and a puppy (Nelly is still technically a puppy), my most useful baby products and some hopefully helpful reviews. If you have anything else you would like me to talk about, or if you have any questions, leave me a message below or tweet me at @TheNellyBellie ! I'd love to hear from you!
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"When I ask how old your toddler is, I don't need to hear '27 months.' 'He's two' will do just fine. He's not a cheese. And I didn't really care in the first place." ~ George Carlin
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